Trauma is everywhere. Look closer, as Besser Van Der Kolk suggests in the video below (only about 8 mins long).
Contrary to old popular beliefs, a lot of people have experienced a (or a number of) traumatic events and experience the consequences of it. Sometimes, people do not even know that this is the case. So, the question never is ‘what is wrong with you’, but ‘what has happened to you‘! Even a lot of professionals ask the first question rather than the latter (and they reinforce your feeling that there is something wrong with you). I often find that the lack of knowledge and experience around what trauma is, how often it happens and how it affects people, is astonishing.
You cannot be ‘fixed’, if you have experienced trauma. Being ‘fixed’, would imply there is something ‘broken’ within you. There isn’t ! I know you may not feel that, but there honestly isn’t. The experiences and problems you have due to trauma, are a normal response to very adverse and/or unusual circumstances/environments.
So, you really cannot be ‘fixed’ because you are really not ‘broken’. But you could be healed and supported to overcome the challenging consequences of trauma. This is a fact nowadays. So, please, reach out to health professionals and seek help; you need it, you deserve it (even if you don’t feel it) and it does exist.
Diomidis Psomas 