Often when we talk to each other, we have different aims; could simply be a transaction, an exchange of information, an opportunity to resolve something or an effort to connect and/or be soothed (a totally natural and human need).
Do you know what you are aiming or hoping for when you initiate a conversation? Do you know or recognise what the other person may want or need from a conversation?
If not, then there can be a mismatch and frustration, tension, sadness, sense of rejection, disappointment and even anger may follow. (by the way drop expectations and aim for clarity).
Click on the link below; Charles Duhigg, an American Journalist, explains simply 3 different types of conversation and how to recognise or initiate….and as a result, instead of misunderstandings and frustrations, to get the maximum satisfaction and sometimes sense of deep connection too. Specially if you want to share distress, trauma experiences, vulnerable emotions; and need to be heard and feel understood and connected, rather than being given ‘advice’.
Practical Conversations
Emotional Conversations
Social Conversations
Diomidis Psomas 