As human beings we are wired to need and seek connections with other human beings. Yes, there may be a variety in terms of degree, but the need is there, to one extent or another, since birth. It is well documented that it is good for us to connect; psychologically, emotionally, physiologically.
I am often being told by clients that ‘this is not the way the world works’, ‘people don’t want to hear things’ or ‘are not interested’ or ‘it is too embarrassing to share’ or ‘others won’t get it, won’t get me’.
No matter what we think or say though, the underlying need is still there and remains unfulfilled. And hence we remain disconnected, isolated. By the way, there is no specific ‘rule’ that governs the world on this. If the people around you ‘can’t listen’ or ‘don’t get it’, maybe they are not the people you could trust and open up to. Or is it possible you assume they ‘won’t get it’, but you have never really tried?
Ok, perhaps don’t expect miracles; no one can be there for someone else 24/7. But as long as someone around you is trustworthy, warm, present, open and kind (all these to at least a significant extent)….then dare to share. Just remember to aim for balance and hence a healthy level of give and take.
Happy New Year…look after yourselves and each other
Diomidis Psomas 